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Should Rihanna stay with Chris? Mariela Weighs In…

Should Rihanna stay with Chris? Mariela Weighs In…

As many of you know, Rihanna, the pop star has been a victim of physical abuse by her boyfriend who brutally beat her. This is not the first assault of course. An abusive relationship is progressive meaning it gets worse over time. Many victims who suffer secretly in this type of relationship tend to blame themselves for the partner’s anger and subsequent acts of violence. This belief makes victims vulnerable to permanent abuse.

The first action to take in abusive relationships is evaluate whether or not the abuser is willing to seek treatment. If he/she is not, the second step is to remove the victim from the situation and get treatment as she/he might be experiencing depression, substance abuse issues, low self esteem, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), suicide ideations, etc.

There is treatment for both parties in abusive relationships. If the abuser is not willing to seek treatment, the victim needs to prepare to leave the situation. Victims usually experience fear of what the abuser would do if he/she found out they are planning to escape. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to help you prepare to leave the relationship. Being a victim of this type of relationship can happen to anybody, Rihanna is the best example of this. No matter how successful, rich, young or beautiful she might be, her boyfriend beat her. How can we prevent thesebhorrendous acts? Here are some characteristics of abusers:

* Explode in anger at small incidents

* Jealous

For more signs to watch for and important info, click below.

* Attempt to cut victim off from social life

* Insecure, low self-esteem

* Manipulative. Emotional blackmail is his/her number one tactic

* Alcohol or drug abusers

* Family history of violence

* Cruel to animals and/or children

* Breaks objects when upset

* See women/children as inferior to men

* Controlling of others

* Has false expectations from her/his partner to satisfy his/her needs

* Says cruel things to degrade partner

I strongly advise victims to escape an abusive relationship before it gets worse. These relationships are predictable, they get worse with the time. The victim is the one responsible for her/his safety. Please call 1-800-799-7233 for help.

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    • Perlina

      I’m not in a abusive relationship.But is allways good to know about it.And of course how to get help if you need it….

    • Enjoyed every bit of your blog.Really looking forward to read more. Great.

    • wow, awesome blog post.Much thanks again. Really Great.